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“I didn’t know daddy in Heaven very well, did I, mommy?”

That factual, straight-forward question brought many emotions. Though the words my five-year-old son spoke were true, I wasn’t sure how to respond. This is the only life he knows; however, questions like this can shatter my heart into a million pieces all over again.

“You didn’t, buddy. You were just one-and-a-half years old when he went to Heaven. But he knew you well! You made him so happy and he loved being your dad!” I said.

“One day we’ll see him again,” he knowingly replied.

We have conversations about Michael regularly. I’ve made it a point for my son to feel like he knows his dad, even if all of his memories are memories I’ve given him. But times like this make can make it tough to continue stepping forward in joy after the loss of my husband Michael. Thoughts of living in joy and freedom can be overshadowed with doubt, unbelief and fear, especially those first several months post loss.

What stops us from stepping forward after loss and living out what the Lord wants for us?

We can’t see the good that can come from horrific circumstances.

We may see that on this earth or we may not, but be confident of this: the Lord works all things for His glory and our good! Always.

What the Lord says …

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”
Romans 8:28 (NIV)

We’re afraid of what might happen.

Our circumstances may have brought us fear of the future, but the Lord is sovereign. He has a plan for each of us and our children.

What the Lord says …

“’For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’”
Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)

We are held captive by our emotions.

There are so many secondary losses when we lose our husbands. As we navigate widowhood, our circumstances may still be painful, but the Lord always comes through. Let us focus on the things we do have and His goodness.

What the Lord says …

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.”
Philippians 4:8 (NIV)

When we begin to question our circumstances and let worry and emotions take over, let us remember to bring our brokenness to Jesus. When we look to Scripture, we find His specialty is rescuing broken people and carrying out His purpose through them.

Lord, Our circumstances and daily struggles can bring doubt and fear. Fill us with peace and help us to have Your eternal perspective. Thank you for the hope and strength Your Word brings. Amen.