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For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh but have divine power to destroy strongholds.
2 Corinthian 10:4 (ESV)

How do you handle the lies Satan throws at you during grief?

You might believe them or at least part of the lies. Perhaps you try to fight the lies off but become weary.

When Satan’s lies come my direction, I have found it is important to identify the lies, know the truth of Scripture, and replace the lies with the truth. It seems simple enough but it has to become a perpetual habit we practice in the power of the Holy Spirit. I can tell you from experience, it can’t be done in our own strength.

What are some of the lies I have told myself or heard others tell:

• I can’t
• I’m to blame
• I’m just fine
• I’m damaged
• I’ll always feel this way
• God must not love me
• I’m alone in this
• Maybe I can get my old life back if I get married again

Do any of these sound familiar to you? Often in our grief, we listen more readily to the lies because of fatigue, hunger, sleep deprivation, or loneliness. On top of everything else we are dealing with, Satan hits us while we are at our lowest and speaks lies in our ears.

Remember back in the Garden of Eden in Genesis 3? Satan said something to Eve that has worked on humans all the way to today. “Did God really say…” Satan wants us to doubt the promises of God in Scripture and be unsure of God’s character. He has been trying this trick, with great success, I might add, since the beginning of time. He found a trick that works and just keeps using it.

So what can we do? Do we just put our fingers in our ears, shouting, “I can’t hear you, I can’t hear you!” While that might work well with some people, I don’t think it even comes close to helping us fight the lies of Satan.

How do we fight these lies:

• Armor of God: This Is the most powerful weapon we have to fight those lies from Satan. The Apostle Paul tells us what to put on Ephesians 6
• Prayer: Another powerful weapon as we call on the very throne of God in heaven. Satan might be tempting you to give up on praying because you “tried” it with your husband and he still died. But prayer is not just about getting what we ask for like a genie in a bottle. Prayer is aligning our requests with God’s purpose and sovereignty. I prayed for my husband with every ounce of my being and he still died. Does that mean God doesn’t answer prayer or that He didn’t love me? Satan would say, “Yes, it does.” But we know from Scripture that God does love us so much that He sent Jesus to die for us.
• Scripture: When Jesus was in the wilderness, He fought with Scripture. Paul tells us that Scripture is God’s words given to us to help us and guide us. 2 Timothy 3:16
• Praise: Listening to worship music was a very strong weapon for me in the early days of grief. Some widows leave praise music playing in the house at all times so when they return home, the house isn’t silent. It can also help quiet your mind as you fall asleep. You will find the words to these songs coming to mind throughout the day.
• Community: This was huge for me. I found something I wrote in the early days when I was introduced to a small group of “young” widows in my community. These ladies were encouraging and a lifeline as we were all just starting our journeys. Then I discovered AWM and was blessed by community even more.

Just remember that there is no way to fight lies in our own strength – we need the divine power that only comes from our Heavenly Father. We have to fight Satan’s lies with supernatural tools.

One of Satan’s favorite weapons is telling us lies- prepare for battle by filling your mind with God’s Word!

One of the best ways to ensure you stay in God’s Word is to get in community with others who are focused on God’s Word. Here are some ideas for finding community:

• AWM HOPE™ Conferences here
• Monthly AWM HOPE™ Infusion Zoom sessions on a different topic each time. Details are on our Facebook page events tab.
• Start a small group in your town with our brand new curriculum made just for widows by widows.

Father God, help us as we fight the lies we hear in our heads during grief. We know these lies are not from You but from Satan. Give us Scriptures to fight our battles and guide us to find the best community to help us in our healing. Amen